LESSONS ON GIVING LESS OF A F*** //
This is something I struggle with. Although I'm fairly laid back about a lot of things in my day-to-day, I really feel guilty if other people are relying on me - no matter the circumstance. I'm slowly learning to rely on my own feelings and responsibilities, rather than those other people have set for me.
Here are some things to think about if you feel exhausted with the amount of fucks you're giving at the moment.
Remember - it is not the end of the world
Having spoken to a colleague in the past, he told me a really sad story about a woman who had died. It made him sit up and realise that the trivial things we stress about daily are not as bad as they seem, particularly in comparison to other people's struggles. We have the opportunity to live every moment and enjoy it, in and out of work, so that's exactly what we should do.
Sure, not all outcomes will be positive and we will almost certainly have some kind of responsibility to uphold but the way we deal with those situations can affect our own mental health.
Focus - on solutions not problems
There are 'glass half full' people and there are the rest. We should all strive to search for the positive in everything although it is easier said than done. Next time you've been in a shit situation, try to take a step back and figure out what the positive of that was. Did you learn something from a mistake? Did it make you re-evaluate something and get rid of it to improve your life?
We hear the phrase 'surround yourself with positive people' or 'people who support you' and it's so true. Everyone is different but if you find you have friends with a constant negative attitude, chances are it will rub off on you. Try to keep those positive people with you to bounce ideas from (this doesn't mean you can't play devil's advocate sometimes!) and spread your own positivity with others.
Evaluate - what really matters to you?
Sitting here and writing this post in my cosy flat, with a generally positive lifestyle (despite some obstacles at the moment) I'm reminded of how lucky I am to be in this position. We get hugely caught up in material things or dramatise our problems, but really, there are people in this world a lot worse off.
This isn't to say you don't have the right to feel miserable, of course, we all have those moments and some last longer than others. However in the grand scheme of things, does it really, hugely make a negative impact on your life? If the answer is no, then focus your concentration on the bigger issues and your passions instead; chuck out anything from your head that is purely materialistic.
Have you struggled with giving too many fucks this year? Let me know how you got through it, or any tips you have on caring less!